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4 Things I Cannot Hide

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4 Things I Cannot Hide: A Personal Reflection

As I navigate life’s winding paths, I often try to present my best self to the world, hoping to mask my flaws. Yet, there are four things I cannot hide: my speech, my assumptions about others, how I let trouble affect me, and my perseverance despite obstacles. These aspects of my character slip through the cracks of my carefully curated facade, revealing my true heart. Through the lens of Scripture, I see both my shortcomings and the path to transformation, as God’s Word guides me to align these areas with His truth.

1. My Speech: The Way I Talk to Others
My words betray my heart. Whether I speak with kindness, impatience, or cutting sarcasm, my tone and intent are laid bare for others to see. I cannot hide the impact of my speech, it lingers, shaping how others perceive me. A harsh word can wound, while a gentle one can heal. Proverbs 15:1 offers wisdom: “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” When I choose words that uplift and encourage, I reflect God’s will for my life on how to interact with others. “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” (Eph 4:29; see Col 4:6) O God, forgive me.

2. My Assumptions: Judging Without Knowing
I often catch myself forming quick judgments about others based on their appearance or actions. Someone comically said, “I can tell a judgmental person just by looking at them.” These assumptions (especially in impugning motives) creep out through my body language, a fleeting glance, a hesitant tone, or an unconscious step back. My biases betray me, revealing a heart prone to prejudging. James 2:1-4 (KJV) challenges me: “My brethren, have not the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory, with respect of persons… Have ye not then been partial in yourselves, and are become judges of evil thoughts?” By seeking to understand others, I strive to embody humility, countering my tendency to assume. (see Matt 7:1-6 Judge not…) O God, forgive me.

3. The Way I Let Trouble Bother Me
When trials come, my response reveals the depth of my faith. Too often, I grumble or slip into pessimism, broadcasting a lack of trust in God. My complaints expose a heart struggling to hold onto hope. Philippians 4:6-7 (KJV) offers a better way: “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” By turning to prayer and gratitude, I can display hope, letting God’s peace shine through my troubles. “Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world,” (Phil 2:14-15) O God, Forgive me.

4. The Way I Keep On Despite Obstacles
My perseverance (or lack thereof) reveals my resilience (or lack thereof). Do I press forward when others criticize, when obstacles loom, or when doubts creep in? My response is visible to all. Galatians 6:9 (KJV) encourages me: “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” This verse urges me to keep going, trusting God, no matter what stands in my way. My steadfastness displays my Hope in God. “For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise:” (Heb 10:36) O God, Forgive me.

The Problem Exemplified
When I fail to guard these areas, my flaws are exposed. Proverbs 21:23 (KJV) warns, “Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.” My unguarded words can spark conflict, reflecting a broader truth: when my speech, assumptions, complaints, or lack of perseverance go unchecked, I invite calamity. This verse humbles me, reminding me of the consequences of letting my heart run unrestrained.

Transforming My Life
Though I cannot hide these four aspects of myself, I can, by God’s grace, refine them to reflect His character. Proverbs 15:1 teaches me to speak with gentleness. James 2:1-4 calls me to love without prejudice. Philippians 4:6-7 guides me to replace complaints with hope. Galatians 6:9 strengthens me to persevere. Together, these scriptures shape me to live in a better way, letting my words, actions, and attitudes shine as a testimony to the transformative power of God’s word. In a world that sees what I cannot hide, I pray my life reflects Christ.

Agape,

Spencer

Duties of SAINTS

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The letter to the Colossians, penned by the Apostle Paul, serves as a profound guide for Christian living. In Colossians 3:1-4:6, Paul outlines the duties of saints, offering a roadmap for believers to follow. These duties can be encapsulated in six main directives: Seek things above, Abolish sin, Implement virtues, Act in the Name of the Lord, Treat your family well, and Serve with steadfastness.

Seek Things Above
(Colossians 3:1-4)
Paul begins by urging believers to set their minds on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. This heavenly focus requires a shift from earthly desires to a pursuit of spiritual growth and eternal truths. As Christians, our lives are hidden with Christ in God, and our ultimate hope is in His return and our future glory with Him. This perspective not only shapes our priorities but also transforms our daily actions, aligning them with God’s eternal purposes.

Abolish Sin (Colossians 3:5-9)
The next step is to mortify, or put to death, sinful behaviors. Paul specifically mentions immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed. These vices are part of the old self, which believers are to shed. Additionally, anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk must be eradicated from our lives. By abolishing these sins, we break free from their destructive power and align ourselves with God’s holiness (cf 1Pet 1:16).

Implement Virtues
(Colossians 3:10-14)
Having discarded the old self, Paul instructs us to put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its Creator. This new self is characterized by virtues such as compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Forgiveness and love are paramount, with love binding all these virtues together in perfect harmony. These qualities reflect the character of Christ and foster a spirit of unity and peace within the church.

Act in the Name of the Lord
(Colossians 3:15-17)
In every action, whether in word or deed, believers are to do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. This command underscores the importance of living a life that seeks the authority of Christ in all circumstances. The peace of Christ should rule in our hearts, and the word of Christ should dwell richly among us, teaching and admonishing one another with wisdom. Our lives become a model of God’s grace and truth when we consistently act in His name.

Treat Your Family Well
(Colossians 3:18-21)
Paul then addresses family relationships, emphasizing the importance of treating each other well. Wives are called to submit to their husbands as is fitting in the Lord, and husbands are instructed to love their wives and not be harsh with them. Children are to obey their parents in everything, as this pleases the Lord, while fathers are cautioned not to provoke their children, lest they become discouraged. These instructions promote faithfulness to God and love within the home, reflecting God’s design to lead them to heaven.

Serve with Steadfastness
(Colossians 3:22-4:6)
Finally, Paul speaks to servants and masters, urging them to serve and lead with integrity and devotion. Servants are to obey their earthly masters with sincerity of heart, as if serving the Lord, while masters are to treat their servants justly and fairly, knowing they too have a Master in heaven. This principle extends to all areas of life, encouraging believers to serve wholeheartedly, remain steadfast in prayer, and conduct themselves wisely towards outsiders, making the most of every opportunity.

Conclusion
The duties outlined in Colossians 3:1-4:6 provide a comprehensive framework for Christian living. By seeking things above, abolishing sin, implementing virtues, acting in the name of the Lord, treating our families well, and serving with steadfastness, we fulfill our calling as saints. These principles guide us to live lives that are pleasing to God, edifying to the church, and impactful to the world around us. May we, as followers of Christ, diligently pursue these duties, growing in faith and reflecting the glory of our Savior in all we do.

No CORRUPT communication

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Last week we looked at how we are to walk, today we’ll look at how we TALK.

A quick reading of James 3 is an eye opener to the dangers of an uncontrolled tongue. There it’s called a, “fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.” (Jas 3:6)

Even under ideal conditions, it’s often difficult to communicate.

This is serious business. Not only is it difficult to find the right thing to say, it’s equally difficult to say it the right way.

Paul gives some instruction about our communication in Ephesians 4:29.

“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”

Three things are Immediately seen. 1) no corrupt speech, 2) rather, edifying speech, and 3) speech that may minister grace to the hearer. The last 2 are somewhat easy; we are to speak those things that will teach (edify) and those things that are a blessing, or helpful (grace). But what is corrupt communication? Not surprisingly, the scripture has a lot to say about what we say.

Firstly, we ought to be careful about COMPLAINING. “Do all things without murmurings and questionings:” (Phil 2:14-15) We’re not discussing the type of communication that tries to right wrongs. We are talking about complaining that is sinful. The OT shows us what happens when we complain against God (Num 11:1). Complaining to people that cannot improve a condition is ungodly and borders on gossip. Rather, we should communicate to others our CONTENTMENT. “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therein to be content.” (Phil 4:11).

A second type of corrupt communication is OVER TALKING. “In the multitude of words there wanteth not transgression; But he that refraineth his lips doeth wisely.” (Prov 10:19). Instead, we ought to be ORDERLY & SLOW to speak. “But let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:” (Jas. 1:19 cf. 1:26

We all know the warnings about REPEATING & RECEIVING Gossip. (Prov 20:19; 11:13; 2Cor. 12:20; 1Tim 5:13) Instead of repeating gossip, how about we REPORT good things about our brethren. Look at chapter 16 of Romans for a list where Paul is giving a good REPORT of some fine men & women.

Then there’s the warning from Christ. “Whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council; and whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of the hell of fire.” (Matt 5:22) “RACA” is a form of contempt toward another. Literally it means, “o empty one; thou worthless.”  Instead, we should say words that have REGARD for the other person; esteeming them better than self (Phil 2:3).

Then there are words that are UNLOVING and divisive. (Job 19:19; Rom 1:31; 2Tim 3:3). Instead, we ought to seek words of UNITY (Eph 4:13). Not unity in tolerance of sin, but “Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” (Eph 4:3)

Looking again at James, we see there are words that are POISONOUS. “It (the tongue) is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.” (3:8). Instead, we can be PLEASING in speech & PROVOKE to love. “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:” (Heb 10:24; Prov 15:26; 16:24)

Lastly, there are words that is TALKING FOOLISHLY. These are crude humor and indecent language. Paul instructs us to replace these with words of THANKS. “Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.” (Eph 5:4)

This article was very thought provoking for me. It’s very easy to get caught up in using the words of our culture, on our TV’s and in the workplace. I’m unable to speak for you, but for me, CORRUPT communication is very much the norm among those in the world and it’s so easy to be influenced by it. I’ll strive to do better so that my words do not give occasion to the enemies of God to blaspheme.

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— spencer

Spencer is an evangelist for the Franklin & Juniper St church of Christ in Borger Texas. If you live in the Borger area and would like a personal bible study, please reach out & let us know how we can help you know more of God’s word.