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Bearing Fruit: Pruning

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“Every branch in me that beareth not fruit he taketh away: and every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth (prunes) it, that it may bring forth more fruit.” (John 15:2)

PRUNING for greater fruitfulness.
In grape production (viticulture), the vinedresser removes dead or unfruitful branches entirely to concentrate the vine’s energy to improve growth and health for greater productivity. This is not destruction but care. God actively tends His people for fruitfulness, accomplished primarily through His Word, all aimed at greater Christlikeness and productivity. From this verse in John 15 we see two actions being taken by the vinedresser (God the Father):

ONE: Branches that produce no fruit are removed. “If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned” (John 15:6). This is a warning about those who were “in me” but are not bearing fruit. We see other scriptures warning of this same condition; The parable of the Sower (Mark 4:13-20); the warning about false prophets (Matt 7:15-20); and the breaking off of branches (Romans 11:11-27). The possibility of apostasy is real.

TWO: The Father cleanses or prunes fruitful branches “that it may bring forth more fruit.” The goal is increase, not comfort—removing what hinders maximum productivity. Paul wrote about a similar “pruning” using the metaphor of “mortifying” and “putting off” the works of the world (Colossians 3:5-17).

The primary instrument of pruning Jesus says is the word, “Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you… If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you” (John 15:3, 7). Reading, applying, and obeying Scripture convicts, corrects, and trains (cf. 2Timothy 3:16-17).

Another way God prunes is through the trials that are in this world since the fall. “My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing” (James 1:2-4). Trials test and develop endurance, leading to maturity (perfection). God has established principles in creation and redemption that automatically correct deviation (sowing and reaping, consequences of sin, Galatians 6:7). Any true understanding of discipline through trial comes from the revealed Word of God.

Hebrews 12 informs us that discipline is for our good, as a father who loves and disciplines his son. It’s considered loving to train a child. “For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth” (Hebrews 12:6). God may use circumstances, but understanding flows from knowing His Word. God “prunes” for greater fruitfulness, because He loves us, for maturity, and to remove hindrances. We respond by abiding in Him (through His word), count trials as joy because of what it will produce in us, actively participate by removing sin & distractions, and fully trusting in God who wants us to be fully equipped for every good work. “Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples” (John 15:8).

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Commencement Address 2026

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Dear class of 2026,

In my nearly 58 years of life, I’ve learned there are two ways to live: one that most people follow, and another that very few find.

When I was young, as you are today, I had the expectation that life would be nothing but FOOD, FUN, and FROLIC. I found those things, but in between came FEAR, FRUSTRATION, and FAILURE. My expectations about life, myself, and others were unrealistic. While this life offers love, laughter, and lucre, it also brings lovelessness, lows, and loss. It surprised me, disappointed me, and often depressed me. I learned this was the wide way.

Then I discovered an ancient book that taught me a better way—a way to find true joy and meaning even in the midst of pain. It showed me that focusing primarily on me, myself, and I (Jeremiah 17:9) led only to dissatisfaction, disappointment, and depression. It revealed there is more to life than what we see under the sun. It pointed me to SOMEONE who is the source of true meaning, purpose, and value—things I could never find on my own. This book taught me about LIGHT, LOVE, and LIFE. It introduced me to Jesus, “the new and living way” (Hebrews 10:20).

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning with God. All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. In him was life; and the life was the light of men. And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth” (John 1:1-4, 14).

Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6). When we learn of Him, and take His yoke upon us (Matt 11:29-30; see Romans 10:17), we find rest. For those who obey His gospel, Jesus becomes their life, their purpose, their meaning, their joy, and their peace. “If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with him in glory” (Colossians 3:1-4; see Colossians 2:11-12; Acts 2:38; Romans 6:3-4).

After putting on Christ (Gal 3:27), my expectations shifted from this temporary life to true hope and eternal life. This instantly gave meaning to my daily efforts, because now I do all things for Him. “And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ” (Colossians 3:17, 23).

Welcome to life. Two ways lie before you: the wide and normal way that many follow, which ends in destruction (Matthew 7:13; 2 Thess. 1:8-9), or the narrow, new and living way that leads to eternal joy, eternal life, and inexpressible love. Choose wisely.

Agape
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Heroes of Faith: The Resolve of Ruth

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But Ruth said: “Entreat me not to leave you, Or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go; And wherever you lodge, I will lodge; Your people shall be my people, And your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, And there will I be buried. The LORD do so to me, and more also, If anything but death parts you and me.” (Ruth 1:16-17)

The story of Ruth is to me one of the most beautiful stories in the bible.

When Ben Franklin was in Paris, he would often converse with members of the ‘Infidels Club’, a group of philosophers who spurned the Bible. These intellectuals spent much of their time searching for and discussing masterpieces of literature and art. For his amusement, Ben Franklin announced that he found an ancient manuscript worthy of their consideration. “We must hear it!” they exclaimed.

Franklin then read to them The Book of Ruth, changing the names of the characters and locale so that it would not be recognized as a story from the Bible. When he was finished, the hearers were unanimous in their praise. “We have never heard anything like it”, they said. “It is one of the most touching stories we have ever heard. You must tell us where you found it!” You can imagine Franklin’s delight when he announced that it was a story from the Bible, the object of their ridicule and disapproval.

The Book of Ruth stands as a compelling example of why we read the Bible. We turn to Scripture to strengthen our faith and deepen our hope (Rom. 15:4). Through Ruth’s story, we learn about the steadfast resolve displayed by those who choose to follow the Lord (Ruth 1:16-17). The narrative also highlights the unique character and strong work ethic that mark individuals who remain faithful to God. “And Boaz answered and said to her, “It has been fully reported to me, all that you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband, and how you have left your father and your mother and the land of your birth, and have come to a people whom you did not know before. “The LORD repay your work, and a full reward be given you by the LORD God of Israel, under whose wings you have come for refuge.”” (Ruth 2:11-12).

Ruth further illustrates the blessing of trusting in God’s ways as revealed in His Word. This is powerfully demonstrated in chapter 3, when she carefully follows Naomi’s instructions concerning the law of redeeming an inheritance. In the end, we witness hope fulfilled and the great joy that awaits God’s children who live as faithful, trusting followers of Him.

“So Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife; and when he went in to her, the LORD gave her conception, and she bore a son. Then the women said to Naomi, “Blessed be the LORD, who has not left you this day without a close relative; and may his name be famous in Israel!” (Ruth 4:13-14)

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PS: At the close of the book, Ruth the Moabite widow is woven into the royal line of Israel. “Boaz begot Obed by Ruth, Obed begot Jesse, and Jesse begot David the king.” (Matthew 1:5-6) 

All Spiritual Blessings in Christ: Prayer

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“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ” (Eph 1:3)

Prayer is one of those spiritual blessings enjoyed by those in a covenant relationship with God. Here are some passages about this spiritual blessing.

Prayer rejected due to sin
• Proverbs 28:9 “He that turneth away his ear from hearing the law, even his prayer shall be abomination.”
• Isaiah 1:15 “When ye make many prayers, I will not hear: your hands are full of blood.”
• Micah 3:4 “Then shall they cry unto the LORD, but he will not hear them… as they have behaved themselves ill in their doings.”
• Zechariah 7:13 “Therefore it is come to pass, that as he cried, and they would not hear; so they cried, and I would not hear.”
• John 9:31 “Now we know that God heareth not sinners: but if any man be a worshipper of God, and doeth his will, him he heareth.”

Hypocrisy / rebellion prevents prayer
• Proverbs 15:29 “The LORD is far from the wicked: but he heareth the prayer of the righteous.”
• Proverbs 21:27 “The sacrifice of the wicked is abomination: how much more, when he bringeth it with a wicked mind?”
• Psalm 66:18 “If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me.”
• James 4:3 “Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.”

Sin separates from God (prayer not heard)
• Isaiah 59:1–2 “Your iniquities have separated between you and your God… that he will not hear.”
• Jeremiah 11:11 “Though they shall cry unto me, I will not hearken unto them.”
• Jeremiah 14:12 “When they fast, I will not hear their cry… I will consume them.”
• 1 Peter 3:12 “The eyes of the Lord are over the righteous… but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.”

Obedience required for answered prayer
• 1 John 3:22 “Whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.”
• Hebrews 5:9 “He became the author of eternal salvation unto all them that obey him.”

Here’s the good news, God hears our prayers “IN CHRIST.” Because we have obeyed the Gospel through faith we have access to God through prayer. “Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16; Eph 2:18; 3:12).

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Bearing Fruit: Members

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“Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.” (John 15:8)

When we talk about being fruit bearers, we recognize that there is One vine (Christ) and One way of defining fruit (the word). What we may overlook is how different each of the branches are. While we are all part of the One vine, and bear fruit, we are still unique individuals. For this we look at another metaphor, the parts of the body.

“For the body is not one member, but many. If the foot shall say, Because I am not the hand, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body? And if the ear shall say, Because I am not the eye, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body? If the whole body were an eye, where were the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where were the smelling? But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him. And if they were all one member, where were the body? But now are they many members, yet but one body. And the eye cannot say unto the hand, I have no need of thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you. Nay, much more those members of the body, which seem to be more feeble, are necessary: And those members of the body, which we think to be less honourable, upon these we bestow more abundant honour; and our uncomely parts have more abundant comeliness. For our comely parts have no need: but God hath tempered the body together, having given more abundant honour to that part which lacked: That there should be no schism in the body; but that the members should have the same care one for another. And whether one member suffer, all the members suffer with it; or one member be honoured, all the members rejoice with it” (1Cor 12:14-26). Another passage on this topic is in Romans 12:4-8, “For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office.”

From these two passages we learn that each of us is individual fruit bearers attached to the One vine, who is Christ. He is the source of our nourishment and growth, and we each have differing abilities from which we bear fruit (cf. Matt 25:14-30). We have differing roles, functions, and abilities for “…the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ” (Eph 4:12-13). These differences work together for the building up of the body.

One of the ways we can bear fruit is through personal evangelism. Our differences (not in the political sense of unity in diversity–which celebrates plurality itself, with less insistence on a single unifying purpose) give the church the greatest ability to reach the most people. Because of our differing interests, abilities, and spheres of influence, we are able to reach people with the gospel that others in the congregation may never meet. From my experience, some folks respond better to those who have similar backgrounds than to those who come from different ones.

Being one in Christ fuses many hearts into one purpose.

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WALKING WORTHY

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“I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called, With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” (Eph 4:1-3)

The Holy Spirit wants us to keep the unity of His Spirit in the bond of peace. In this passage He gives 3 avenues through which we are to “walk worthy of the vocation you are called.” To understand this passage, we need to understand the words.

Walk: To conduct one’s life, behave, or live in a habitual manner; the ongoing pattern of daily conduct and lifestyle as a believer (Colossians 1:10; Ephesians 5:2)

Worthy: Suitably, appropriately, or in a manner that matches or balances the value of something; living in congruence with the dignity and nature of what has been received. Philippians 1:27 — “Let your conversation be as it becometh the gospel of Christ” (worthy manner);

Vocation: The divine calling, invitation, or summons to salvation and service in Christ; the position or role to which God has invited believers. 1Corinthians 7:20 — “Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called”;

Called: To be summoned, invited, or effectually drawn by God into relationship with Him through the gospel. 2Thessalonians 2:14 — “Whereunto he called you by our gospel.”

Lowliness: Humility of mind, lowliness of thought about oneself; thinking soberly of self in light of God’s grace, without pride or self-exaltation. Colossians 3:12 — “Put on… humbleness of mind.”

Meekness: Gentleness, mildness, or controlled strength; a disposition that is patient and considerate, not harsh or self-assertive, even under provocation. It’s Restrained power, not weakness. Matthew 11:29 — “For I am meek and lowly in heart.”

Longsuffering: Patience, forbearance, or endurance in bearing wrongs; slow to anger and long to endure provocation or hardship. Colossians 3:12 — “Putting on… longsuffering.”

Unity: Oneness, harmony, or unanimity; the state of being one in spirit and purpose, produced by the Holy Spirit among believers. The term appears only here and in Ephesians 4:13.

Peace: Harmony, tranquility, and reconciliation; the state of concord and absence of strife, especially the bond that holds believers together. Ephesians 2:14 — “For he is our peace, who hath made both one.”

These words reveal that walking worthy involves humble, gentle, patient conduct that preserves the Spirit-given oneness among believers.

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Bearing Fruit: 100 fold

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“Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.” (John 15:8)

Bearing fruit is more than a positive affirmation, it has substance. In God’s law of sowing and reaping, the physical act of planting seed mirrors the spiritual work of evangelism. Jesus taught in the Parable of the Sower, “But he that received seed into the good ground is he that heareth the word, and understandeth it; which also beareth fruit, and bringeth forth, some an hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty” (Matthew 13:8, 23). When we scatter the seed of the Gospel, four powerful incentives assure us that our labor is never in vain.

First, we receive personal benefit—FOOD for ourselves. Just as the farmer’s harvest supplies daily bread, God promises the same in the spiritual realm: “Now he that ministereth seed to the sower both minister bread for your food, and multiply your seed sown, and increase the fruits of your righteousness” (2Corinthians 9:10). Every time we share the Gospel, our own faith is nourished. You’ve heard that the teacher gets more than the student. Evangelism also feeds the sower. Are you sowing the seeds of the kingdom, brother?

Second, we can expect a harvest OVER and ABOVE what we can imagine—30, 60, or 100-fold—but it may come well after us. Paul declares, “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us” (Ephesians 3:20). A single conversion to Christ can ripple across decades and continents. The person you teach to obey the Gospel today may win others tomorrow, producing fruit far beyond your lifetime (2Timothy 2:2). The surplus benefits into future generations, and praise that glorifies God. While we can expect an overabundance, there is a caveat, “He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully” (2Corinthians 9:6). Are you sowing the seeds of the kingdom, brother?

Third, we benefit from the LABORS of others, and others will benefit from ours. Jesus reminded His disciples, “One soweth, and another reapeth… I sent you to reap that whereon ye bestowed no labour: other men laboured, and ye are entered into their labours” (John 4:37-38). Every believer is the fruit of someone else’s faithful sowing—parents, teachers, friends, or even strangers who planted the seed of the kingdom years earlier. We in this place are beneficiaries of the labors of others. Are you sowing the seeds of the kingdom, brother?

Finally, we are to sow DILIGENTLY—while remaining wholly DEPENDENT on God. Even in paradise, Adam was commanded to cultivate the garden. The same command echoes in the Great Commission: go and sow the Gospel. Diligent Duty is the record of history; we cannot sit idle. Yet growth is never by our power alone. God sends the sunshine, the rain, and He gives the increase. All glory belongs to Him. Are you sowing the seeds of the kingdom, brother?

This goes beyond evangelism. These lessons can be applied to all fruit bearing. The fruit is felt first by the individual Saint, then there’s an overabundance of fruit, followed by lasting benefits for others. Finally, there’s a reminder to remain faithful and thankful to Christ, the Vine.

Agape,

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Heroes of Faith: Onesiphorus

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ONESIPHORUS, AN UNUSUAL FRIEND

Few figures shine as quietly yet powerfully as ONESIPHORUS, a faithful believer from Ephesus mentioned in Paul’s final letter, 2 Timothy. Paul, imprisoned in Rome and facing execution, contrasts the desertion of many (2 Timothy 1:15) with Onesiphorus’s steadfast loyalty. In 2 Timothy 1:16-18, Paul prays, “The Lord give mercy unto the house of Onesiphorus; for he oft refreshed me, and was not ashamed of my chain: But, when he was in Rome, he sought me out very diligently, and found me. The Lord grant unto him that he may find mercy of the Lord in that day: and in how many things he ministered unto me at Ephesus, thou knowest very well.” Later, in 2 Timothy 4:19, Paul greets “the household of Onesiphorus,” underscoring the lasting impact of this man’s life. His name, meaning “bringing profit” or “help-bringer,” perfectly captures his character. Onesiphorus stands as a model for Christians to emulate in an age of fleeting commitments, (Phil 3:17).


Let’s note first of all his UNPARALLELED SUPPORT: Onesiphorus “often refreshed” Paul, a term implying revival and cooling relief amid suffering. This shows that Onesiphorus gave aid frequently to Paul and his efforts—which Timothy was well acquainted with, “and in how many things he ministered unto me at Ephesus, thou knowest very well.” This kind of commendation tells me that his work was done quietly without fanfare, but noticed, especially by those who are helped (see Prov 27:2).

Then there’s his UNABASHED EFFORTS: Paul highlights that Onesiphorus “was not ashamed of my chains.” In 2 Timothy 1:8, 12, 16, Paul urges Timothy not to be ashamed of the gospel or of Paul’s imprisonment. A Roman prison would discourage lesser men, but not ONESIPHORUS. Paul was not suffering because of his own faults, but was suffering wrongfully for the sake of the Gospel (e.g., 1Peter 4:14-16). Paul was confined in the bowels of Rome’s ancient Mamertine Prison—a place nearly devoid of light, which make modern-day prisons feel like a cheap motel room by comparison. Unlike his confinement in the final chapters of Acts, this one treated him as a condemned “evil doer” (2 Timothy 2:9), with no privileges. Roman prisons did not reliably provide sustenance; prisoners relied on external support—Paul needed help.

Then there’s his UNSTOPPABLE EFFORT: When in Rome, Onesiphorus “sought me out very diligently, and found me” (2 Timothy 1:17). In a time without cell phones, nor GPS, no obstacle deterred him; he persevered until he located and delivered the aid Paul desperately needed in the deep, dark, and dank prison.

Finally, there’s his UNSURPASSED REWARD: Paul prays, “The Lord grant unto him that he may find mercy of the Lord in that day” (2 Timothy 1:18), pointing to eternal reward. Jesus promises in Matthew 10:40-42 that whoever receives His servants receives Him, and even a cup of cold water given in His name will not lose its reward (see Matt 25:31-46).

O to have more like Onesiphorus.

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How to get All The Spiritual Blessings that are in Christ

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“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ” (Eph 1:3)

Last month we saw how all spiritual blessings are IN CHRIST, and none are for those OUTSIDE of Christ. This month we shall answer the all-important question, “How to be in Christ?”

Continuing in the first chapter of Ephesians, all spiritual blessings (such as election, adoption, redemption, forgiveness, inheritance, and sealing with the Holy Spirit) belong exclusively to those who are “IN CHRIST” (Ephesians 1:3–14).

To be “IN CHRIST” means to be united with Him in His death, burial, and resurrection, then His righteousness, and blessings become yours (Romans 6:3–11; 2Cor 5:17, 21; Col 2:12; Gal 2:20).

The New Testament describes this union as happening through faith in Christ, through FAITH, REPENTANCE and BAPTISM:

Faith is the means: “Ye are all sons of God by faith in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:26). Believing the gospel of Jesus Christ begins our unity to Christ (Romans 10:9–10; Ephesians 2:8–9).

Repentance is inseparable from faith: Repentance was preached by Jesus at the beginning when Jesus said, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel” (Mark 1:15). And continued to be preached after His death, burial, & resurrection, “Testifying both to the Jews, and also to the Greeks, repentance toward God, and faith toward our Lord Jesus Christ” (Acts 20:21; cf Acts 2:38).

Baptism in water is the point of inclusion: “Then they that gladly received his word were baptized: and the same day there were added unto them about three thousand souls” (Acts 2:42, 47). “For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ” (Galatians 3:27). “Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death” (Romans 6:3). “Buried with him in baptism, wherein also ye are risen with him through the faith of the operation of God, who hath raised him from the dead” (Colossians 2:12). Note that it is faith in God’s work as we obey the Gospel.

Thus, one becomes “IN CHRIST” by Hearing, Believing the gospel of Christ, Repentance, Confession (Romans 10:9), then being Baptized into Him (immersion in water in His name, Acts 2:38). It’s only then that a person is a new creation (2Corinthians 5:17), reconciled to God, and receives every spiritual blessing in Him.

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Speak First, Think Later

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JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS

Last week, people took polar-opposite positions on an artist’s performance in a language neither of them understood. What stood out to this author wasn’t so much the controversy, but that folks were arguing over facts neither side had.

One fellow made a divisive Facebook post, then an hour later retracted it after hearing “the rest of the story.”

It reminded me of a warning written in the ancient wisdom literature about taking such impetuous and rash actions based on half (or less) of the facts. “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.” (Proverbs 18:13)

The scriptures reveal many such rash judgments people have made based on little to no facts.

A clear biblical example appears in the confusion surrounding Jesus’ birthplace. Many in His day assumed He was merely from Nazareth in Galilee, prompting Nathanael to ask skeptically, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?” (John 1:46). This prejudice against the insignificant village blinded him to Jesus’ true identity.

Similarly, in John 7, crowds and religious leaders debated whether Jesus could be the Messiah, arguing, “Will the Christ come out of Galilee? Has not the Scripture said that the Christ comes from the seed of David and from Bethlehem?” (John 7:41-42). They rejected Him because they believed He originated in Galilee, unaware He was born in Bethlehem fulfilling prophecy (Micah 5:2; Luke 2). Their hasty dismissal ignored the full story. Premature conclusions often stem from prejudice, incomplete information, or arrogance, leading people to dismiss truth.

Even Nicodemus faced mockery when defending fair process: “Does our law judge a man without first giving him a hearing?” (John 7:51), only to be scorned as possibly Galilean himself (v. 52). These instances show how answering, or rejecting a person before hearing the complete matter fosters error, division, and overlooked details. It’s folly to answer a matter before hearing it.

It’s a broken record… Jumping to conclusions about people close to us (spouses, children, friends, or family) can lead to contempt and have lasting effects. When we assume (impugn) motives, judge character, or assign blame without hearing “the rest of the story,” we violate the wisdom of Proverbs 18:13. These snap judgments or assumptions usually stay internal at first: unvoiced suspicions, lingering doubts, or private resentments, but they seldom remain hidden. They leak out in changes in tone, avoidance, passive-aggressive actions, overreactions, and gossip. The affected person senses something’s wrong but doesn’t know what.

Humble recognition that we may not have all the facts is the first step. Giving folks the benefit of the doubt can do wonders. Gratitude and Prayer also helps.

Agape

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